Internal Considering

Internal (or Inner) Considering

 

Internal considering, the opposite of external considering, is a form of inner identifying which manifests in myriad ways due to ingrained attitudes, buffers, beliefs and emotional wounding. These include among others:

  • Complaining
  • Self-justifying
  • Feeling owed
  • Comparing oneself to others
  • Judging others and ourselves
  • Making accounts against others and ourselves
  • Self-righteousness
  • Thinking about what others think of us
  • Thinking others should be, look and/or act differently

 

“Internal considering is a Work term that refers to an internal psychological condition which is continually considering the self or the perception of the self by others. It makes you anxious and wonder what impression you are making, or will make, or have made. You worry that you weren’t given enough attention or understanding or that your various attributes weren’t appreciated. You are afraid you weren’t attractive enough, or amusing enough, or intelligent enough. Were your clothes appropriate, was your hair just right, were there visible flaws, social gaffs, or any appearance that was unflattering? And, most importantly, were you treated with respect, with deference, with the acknowledgement which is owed to you?

 

“All internal considering springs from self-love. These are all forms of identifying and behind them all is vanity. The Work teaches that the two giants of pride and vanity proceed us in life and ruin everything. They keep you asleep in yourself, obsessively thinking only of yourself, making you anxious or insecure and feeling that you haven’t been treated right according to your own evaluation of yourself. …

 

“A person can even make accounts against life itself. You may not feel that you have ever had a fair chance, that your parents or family mistreated you, that you made a bad marriage, that you didn’t have the opportunity to go to college or have the career you wanted, that you deserve better circumstances, fewer difficulties, more affluence, and all of this is not only written down in an account book, it is sung as a kind of sad song in the background of your psychology. It may be only a silent sad song, or you may sing it openly under the right circumstances. This is called singing your song in the Work and it is a psychologically crippling condition. …

 

“However, it’s just a habit that must be brought into the light of consciousness. It’s a kind of private relationship you have with yourself that may emerge when you are alone but remember that you must observe yourself when you are alone. In fact, when you are alone you may easily be in the worst company you could keep but you are not even thinking of observing yourself at all.”

– Rebecca Nottingham, Finding The Divine Within: Wisdom of The Fourth Way, pp. 151, 153-154

 

At the core of all internal considering is the focus on what we want and feeling that we are owed. In addition, these forms of interior complaining can activate the negative part of the emotional center

and leave our bodies in a heightened stress-response state.